90后学霸找不到工作，一脚踹开妈妈：都是你的错！
<p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com"><section data-role="paragraph" class="_135editor"><section class=""><section><section><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com"><section class="_135editor" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="88968"><section class="layout"><p style="text-align: center; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); box-sizing: border-box !important;">“我儿子一本大学毕业找不到工作，<br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></strong></p><p style="text-align: center; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; 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margin-right: auto; margin-left: auto; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 55px; height: 55px; opacity: 0.4; border-radius: 50%; box-shadow: rgb(199, 119, 119) 0px 0px 5px; color: rgb(76, 62, 46); background-color: rgb(205, 190, 172);"></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑; color: rgb(12, 12, 12); box-sizing: border-box !important;">学霸男毕业即失业</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑; color: rgb(12, 12, 12); box-sizing: border-box !important;">大吼妈妈“都是你的错！”</span></strong></p></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section></section></section></section></section><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><section class="" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="91035" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">90后男孩小力（化名）从小成绩优异，班里排名从来都是数一数二的，大学轻松考上了一本，读的是当下热门的金融专业，可以说是学霸无疑了。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">但就是这个让人羡慕的“别人家的孩子”，在毕业找工作时却栽了跟头，</span><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(255, 41, 65); box-sizing: border-box !important;">漂亮的简历为他争取到不少面试的机会，但奇怪的是，每到这一关他就被无情地刷了下来。</span></strong><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">他又转而去考公务员，笔试成绩排名第一，可经过面试就变成了垫底。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">接二连三的打击让小力丧失了信心，于是每天沉迷网络，在家一待就是两年。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">着急的母亲每天在他耳边念叨着快去找工作，终于有一天，忍无可忍的小力爆发了，一脚踹开了他的母亲，“</span><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(255, 41, 65); box-sizing: border-box !important;">我现在所有的结果都是你造成的！你只让我学习，不让我交朋友……你再看看你自己，和谁的关系处理得好？”</span></strong><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">听了这些话，小力的母亲也非常委屈，为了给小力一个良好的学习环境，他们一家特地从外地来到宁波市里租房住，</span><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(255, 41, 65); box-sizing: border-box !important;">阻挠小力与其他孩子一起玩</span></strong><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">，也是怕影响他的成绩。至于自己，的确与小力的爸爸不太说话，与身边的亲戚关系也不好，经常吵架，但这与小力有什么关系呢？</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">她到现在都不明白问题到底出在哪，她说，“我的儿子明明很优秀，一定是用工单位里没有熟人，有人介绍就一定没问题了。”</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section></section></section><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section class="" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="87845" data-color="#1e9be8" style="max-width: 100%; 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min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section style="max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 14px; line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">图文无关</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 14px; line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section></section></section></section></section></section><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><section class="" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="91035" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">文文（化名）今年30岁了，在她小的时候，母亲便辞去了工作，接送她上学放学，陪伴她读课外班，照料她的日常起居，除了读书，什么事都不用文文操心。在母亲的辛苦付出下，文文成绩优秀，毕业后也找到了好工作，但</span><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(255, 41, 65); box-sizing: border-box !important;">一到休息日，她就宅在家，从未见她交过男朋友。</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">和很多父母一样，文文的父母也开始为她的婚事着急，张罗着让文文相亲，但是他们又担心女儿太过单纯，总是选择陪同前往，尽管文文已经考出了驾照，父亲仍然坚持亲自骑电动车送女儿去约好的地点。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">相亲时，</span><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(255, 41, 65); box-sizing: border-box !important;">不善交际的文文总是觉得没话和对方说，寥寥几句就结束了交谈，气氛一度非常尴尬，当父母问其对男孩子的感觉，她说不上来，她甚至不知道自己想要找一个什么样的人。</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">无独有偶，晓彤（化名）也是个优秀的女孩子，她漂亮，懂生活，有不错的工作，也有关系较好的闺蜜，但同样是到了30岁仍然孤身一人。她拒绝了身边所有示好的男性，一旦有人传达出喜欢他的意思，她甚至做出划清界限的举动。她也被迫去相过亲，但她对此十分反感，男方找话题，询问她的工作和个人情况，都被她认为是盘问，当商品一样衡量。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">原来，在单亲家庭长大的晓彤，从小被妈妈灌输了</span><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(255, 41, 65); box-sizing: border-box !important;">“不要搭理男孩子，男孩子会欺负你”，“只要用心读书，其他都不重要”</span></strong><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">的意识，这直接导致她从小就刻意避免与男性接触，即便她已经到了应该接触的年龄。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section></section></section></section><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><section class="" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="87845" data-color="#1e9be8" style="max-width: 100%; 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line-height: 1.4; word-break: break-all; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“其实他们的表现，都是社交障碍。而究其根源，都来自成长的环境。”罗红媛是国家二级心理咨询师、社会工作师，她做情感咨询工作已有8个年头，她接触过的类似案例在宁波并不少见，这些家长将孩子辛苦养大，培育成才，明明到了该“摘果子”的时候，却不得不咽下现实带来的苦果。“很多家长只知道要赚钱，给孩子最好的学习条件和生活保障，他们最看重是孩子的学习成绩，却忽略了进入社会后，人际交往能力才是更重要的。”</p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;">罗红媛认为，人从出生那一刻就诞生于关系之中，所有的心理困惑背后多数都是人际关系的问题，而问题的源头在于家庭系统内部，源于家庭特有的情绪气氛，源于家庭成员的沟通模式。</p></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; height: 6px; color: inherit;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; height: 6px; width: 6px; float: left; border-bottom: 2px solid rgb(117, 117, 118); border-top-color: rgb(117, 117, 118); 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