孩子写的检讨书，太逗了！最后却让家长都看沉默了……
<section class="" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="91525" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: justify; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="margin: 8px; padding: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 25.6px; border-radius: 10px; height: auto; box-shadow: rgb(221, 221, 221) 2px 2px 8px; display: -webkit-flex;"><section style="padding-right: 10px; padding-left: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; flex: 1 1 auto; height: 55px;"><section style="text-align: left; max-width: 100%; line-height: 35px; white-space: nowrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;">有一天早上起来，家长圈被四年级学生的一篇文章霸屏了，在强烈的好奇心驱使下，认真地拜读了这篇自称为“检讨书”的美文，刹那间被折服了与大家分享这篇文章前，先作一个声明：<strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">这真的只是一份检讨书。</strong></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">小作家：我是一张转转凳子</strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: justify; text-indent: 2em; line-height: 2em;">我家住在综合教室（7），我有一张扁扁圆圆的脸，蓝色的脸庞，身材不好，可我的脖子好呀！又细又长，还有螺纹呢！我下盘稳固，你瞧，我四条腿，矮矮稳稳地站在地板上。我能高能矮，只要转转就能把我的脖子调高、调矮。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: justify; text-indent: 2em; line-height: 2em;">三年级同学总是调皮，总是淘气地把我的头转下来，让我身首异处，幸好有老师帮助，我又能恢复原形。即使有几位同学很淘气，把我踢来踢去，我还是忠于职责，头顶每一位同学的屁股，哦！您已经知道，我是谁了吧——一张转转凳子，科学教室里数量最多的凳子。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: justify; text-indent: 2em; line-height: 2em;">今天，我来代替小语同学写一份检讨书，因为，小语同学很调皮，我给你说说她在社团课上调皮的故事吧！</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: justify; text-indent: 2em; line-height: 2em;">今天社团课根据需要，座位稍稍调整，小语前面坐上了一位好脾气的帅哥哥，她觉得这位六年级的哥哥又高又大，很想和哥哥说说话，可是哥哥上课很认真，没有搭理小语，小语眉头一皱计上心来。她趁哥哥被点名起身的一瞬间，把我从哥哥身后抽走了。眼看哥哥一点防备都没有，弯腰就要坐下来，可是我不在下面，我就立刻大声喊：“哥哥别坐，别坐”，小语却在后面把心提到嗓子眼。哥哥当然听不到我的喊声，一屁股坐下来，立刻摔了一个大坐墩。哗啦一声，老师、同学们都惊讶地看着哥哥，小语的表情更加奇特，火眼金睛的老师也立刻走到小语前面来。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: justify; text-indent: 2em; line-height: 2em;">哥哥站起来，拍拍屁股，疑惑地看着小语，小语心里发毛，看人高马大的哥哥会怎么样火冒三丈呢？哥哥没火，还是好脾气地坐下，可是火冒三丈的郑老师却快步走来，拎起小语的手，像拎起那只小语家的小兔子一样，把小语请出座位，来到教室外个别教育了。小语乖乖地走到教室外，她悻悻地承认了自己的错误，并认罚写检讨书。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 636.48px; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block; overflow: hidden !important;"></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><section style="padding: 3px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border-radius: 1.6em; display: inline-block; background-color: rgb(64, 133, 179);"><section style="padding: 2px 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border-radius: 1.6em; border-width: 1px; border-style: dotted; border-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 1.4em;"><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">事件回顾</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><section style="margin-top: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="padding-right: 8px; padding-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: justify; color: rgb(126, 130, 130); line-height: 1.7; letter-spacing: 1px; font-size: 15px;"><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 16px;">这封“童话体”检讨书的小主人小语，是杭州保俶塔实验学校申花路校区四年级学生。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 16px;">小语因为上社团课时，在一名男生被点名起身后，把凳子挪开，让他坐到了地上，当时上课的郑老师让她写份检讨书，并提出可以用童话方式写。后经老师稍加润色，发到了自己创办的公众号上。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 16px;">小语的妈妈从郑老师的公众号里看到了女儿写的这篇“童话体”检讨书，觉得“又好气，又好笑”。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 636.48px; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block; overflow: hidden !important;"></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><section style="padding: 3px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border-radius: 1.6em; display: inline-block; background-color: rgb(64, 133, 179);"><section style="padding: 2px 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border-radius: 1.6em; border-width: 1px; border-style: dotted; border-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 1.4em;"><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">闻一知十</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><section style="margin-top: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="padding-right: 8px; padding-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: justify; color: rgb(126, 130, 130); line-height: 1.7; letter-spacing: 1px; font-size: 15px;"><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 16px;">作为我们这些勤奋好学又呕心沥血为育儿事业的父母，可以从这篇“又好气又好笑”的检讨书中学到什么呢？</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(171, 25, 66); font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">在生活中，我们教育孩子最常用的激励方式通常是胡萝卜加大棒式，也就是运用奖励和惩罚两种手段引导孩子的行为。要使驴子前进，就在它前面放一个胡萝卜，或用一根棒子在后面赶它。</span></strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 636.48px; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block; overflow: hidden !important;"></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><section style="margin-top: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); background-color: rgb(64, 133, 179);"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">善用表扬</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(76, 76, 76);">奖励是从正面肯定孩子，并不提倡用物质来奖励，通常是语言上的表扬、赞美、鼓励等，而<span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">表扬孩子也是非常讲究技巧的</strong></span>，一不小心表扬错了，便会适得其反。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(76, 76, 76);">最有效的表扬是肯定孩子身上可以控制和可以变化的特质。比如：当孩子顺利解决一个难题时，我们可以夸孩子肯动脑筋，或夸孩子有毅力，在困难面前不退缩，最好不要夸孩子聪明。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(76, 76, 76);"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(76, 76, 76);">因为得到肯定后，孩子从中获得成就感，这个特质便被强化了。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(76, 76, 76);"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(76, 76, 76);">“爱动脑”和“毅力”这些特质是孩子可以通过努力获得的，以后还能再用努力来获得肯定。而“聪明”却是父母给的，是天生的，不能通过自己的努力慢慢培养，在这种表扬和肯定面前，孩子会出现一种无力感。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(76, 76, 76);"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(76, 76, 76);">久而久之，会让孩子觉得：我好不好，不是我自己可以做到的。这样的表扬便失去积极作用，起不到激励的效果了。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 636.48px; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block; overflow: hidden !important;"></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><section style="margin-top: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); background-color: rgb(64, 133, 179);"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">慎用惩罚</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; line-height: 2em; text-align: justify;">让小语写这份检讨书的，是学校一位有28年教龄的科学老师郑维庆。在这里，郑老师运用的是另一种激励方法：惩罚。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; line-height: 2em; text-align: justify;">惩罚的作用通常是当孩子犯错时，给他一个厌恶刺激，让孩子学会界限。我们在生活中也常常用<span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(7, 94, 200);"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">惩罚来帮助孩子建立规矩，但</strong><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">惩罚孩子需要慎之又慎</strong></span>，因为惩罚非常容易让孩子产生对抗情绪，这样不仅无法达到立规矩的目的，严重的还会破坏亲子关系。而且惩罚的效果也远远不如表扬。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; line-height: 2em; text-align: justify;">“我教书28年，当班主任时，会让一些犯了错的高年级学生写检讨书，但效果一般。大部分学生写检讨书时，情绪是负面的，我给他们提供反思机会，他们却在说假话。”郑老师说，他一直认为写检讨书这种事情没用，“可能改改人称就有意思多了。”</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; line-height: 2em; text-align: justify;">从心理学角度来看，受到惩罚的孩子在写检讨书时情绪是负面的，是对抗性的，心里只想着尽快完成任务，结束惩罚，是很难客观看待自己犯错这件事，作出深刻反思的。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 636.48px; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block; overflow: hidden !important;"></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><section style="margin-top: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="padding-right: 8px; padding-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: justify; color: rgb(126, 130, 130); line-height: 1.7; letter-spacing: 1px; font-size: 15px;"><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 16px;">而郑老师创新地让小语把检讨书写成童话故事，看似简单的换了一下人称来写，却充满了教育机智。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 16px;">孩子在听说检讨书可以写自己有兴趣的童话时，瞬间便在情绪上放松了。而用“小凳子”的口吻来讲述事情，又让小语可以用客观的态度去看待自己犯的错，用“小凳子”的视角反思起来也更积极。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 16px;">因此，才有了这份俏皮又深刻的“童话体”检讨书。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><section style="padding: 3px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border-radius: 1.6em; display: inline-block; background-color: rgb(64, 133, 179);"><section style="padding: 2px 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border-radius: 1.6em; border-width: 1px; border-style: dotted; border-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 1.4em;"><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">如何对待孩子犯错</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><section style="margin-top: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); background-color: rgb(64, 133, 179);"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">第一</strong></span><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(76, 76, 76);">，运用惩罚前，<span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">要处理好家长自己的情绪，切忌带情绪的发泄式惩罚</strong></span>。比如，对孩子说：九点前写不完作业就给我再加抄一百遍。这样的惩罚会让孩子觉得除了父母发泄愤怒外，是毫无意义的，孩子会产生强烈的不满情绪。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); background-color: rgb(64, 133, 179);"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">第二</strong></span><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(76, 76, 76);">，<span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">惩罚实施前，还要先处理好孩子的情绪。</strong></span>在孩子犯错受到惩罚时，往往带着害怕、挫败、不服等情绪，这种状态下，孩子是很难静下心来思考的。家长可以先处理孩子的情绪。比如，倾听并且肯定孩子的情绪，让孩子觉得自己是被理解的。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); background-color: rgb(64, 133, 179);"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">第三</strong></span><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(76, 76, 76);">，<span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">以孩子乐于接受的方式引导孩子客观看待错误</strong></span>，进行深刻反思。像郑老师所用的换一种文体、换一个人称或者换一个视角的方式进行反思等可以让孩子容易接受的方式。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 636.48px; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block; overflow: hidden !important;"></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><section style="margin-top: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="padding-right: 8px; padding-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: justify; color: rgb(126, 130, 130); line-height: 1.7; letter-spacing: 1px; font-size: 15px;"><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-indent: 2em; line-height: 2em;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 16px;">总之，育儿是个大工程，在激励孩子健康成长上，应该以表扬为主，慎用、活用惩罚，多多探索，找到适合自己孩子的方式。</span></p></section></section></section><p class="" style="text-align: left; margin-top: 12px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0px; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px; word-break: break-all;"><font color="#000000">文章来源：寻乌团县委</font></p><a class="rich_media_meta rich_media_meta_link rich_media_meta_nickname" href="https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s?timestamp=1523408889&src=3&ver=1&signature=6uiitlFn2k2A2LL7PVHK1ryufeognOiseoSP67og8gwa8vibKNmnOQBsSRH6Q8yR0uVDWNGSUze7ZC8obHsR4l99UwcCFcGC1PFIf1KD5s2QP5QVRsCnGYDjALCjFFnSTveGFj3bkgy8WJYrglnKUxKEDUzZAKtB*kdUz2bGTEI=##" id="post-user" style="margin-right: 8px; 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