育儿 | 管理好自己的情绪，是为人父母的必修课
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><p style='text-align: center;'><br></p><p><br></p><section style='box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='margin: 10px 8px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;height: 2em;padding-top: 0.3em;border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(255, 181, 197);box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; font-size: 23px; height: 1em; width: 1.4em; line-height: 1.2em; margin-top: -0.3em; color: rgb(255, 182, 193); box-sizing: border-box;'><p style='box-sizing: border-box;'><strong style='box-sizing: border-box;'>01</strong></p></section><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;border-top: 1px solid rgb(255, 181, 197);line-height: 1.6em;color: rgb(255, 181, 197);box-sizing: border-box;'><p style='box-sizing: border-box;'><strong style='box-sizing: border-box;'> PART</strong></p></section></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><span style='box-sizing: border-box;'>前夜，刚哄完泰爷安睡的海豚，惯常去书房码字时，看到久违联络的朋友发来一条微信留言：</span>「完了，我把孩子的乐高给砸了……」</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>赶紧拨通朋友的电话，朋友讲起起当时的情境：</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>刚跟连日应酬晚归的老公大吵一通的朋友，心气浮燥地命令儿子收拾玩具赶紧睡觉，她好有时间处理尚未完成的工作，<span style='box-sizing: border-box;'>可儿子依然没听见一般，继续摆弄并炫耀着刚拼好的乐高。</span></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>疲惫不堪的朋友望着满地凌乱玩具和眼前这只嬉皮笑脸的“小猴子”，心中腾起一股无名火，一巴掌打散儿子拼好的乐高玩具，丢进了玩具箱里……</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section></section><section style='text-align: center;margin: 10px 8px;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;box-sizing: border-box;'></span></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>事后，朋友虽及时悔悟，用道歉安抚了孩子，但年仅4岁的孩子乍现那道愤恨的眼神，始终让朋友耿耿于怀，她说若能重演，定不让过激行为在孩子回忆中烙下伤疤。<br style='box-sizing: border-box;'></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>伤害已成定局。其实，整场闹剧无非是朋友将夫妻争执后残留的情绪和工作的压力发泄到孩子身上。</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>通观很多家庭都会出现的类似情境，而多数家长的看法无外乎是：</section></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='margin-top: 10px; justify-content: flex-start; box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: 10%;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 80%;border-width: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;'><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" x="0px" y="0px" viewBox="0 0 91.8 70.9" style='vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;' width="100%"><g style='box-sizing: border-box;'><path d="M22.4,26.1c-2.7,0-5.2,0.5-7.6,1.3L40.6,1.6c0.4-0.4,0.4-1,0-1.3c-0.4-0.4-1-0.4-1.3,0L8.9,30.6C3.5,34.7,0,41.2,0,48.5C0,60.9,10,71,22.4,71s22.4-10,22.4-22.4S34.8,26.1,22.4,26.1z" fill="#FFC1C1" style='box-sizing: border-box;'></path><path d="M69.4,26.1c-2.7,0-5.2,0.5-7.6,1.3L87.6,1.6c0.4-0.4,0.4-1,0-1.3c-0.4-0.4-1-0.4-1.3,0L55.9,30.6C50.4,34.7,47,41.2,47,48.5C47,60.9,57,71,69.4,71c12.4,0,22.4-10,22.4-22.4S81.8,26.1,69.4,26.1z" fill="#FFC1C1" style='box-sizing: border-box;'></path></g></svg></section></section></section><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: 50%;border-bottom: 2px dashed rgb(182, 182, 182);border-bottom-right-radius: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='border-top: 1px dashed rgba(0, 0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 0;'><section style='line-height: 0;width: 0px;'><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style='vertical-align:top;'></svg></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>我们多辛苦，外有赚钱艰辛、家有琐事烦扰，孩子不但不理解还只会增烦添乱，让我们如何不失控！</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>孩子还小，不记事的，不管怎么打骂，过后他们总会忘得干净……</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='margin-bottom: 10px;text-align: right;justify-content: flex-end;box-sizing: border-box;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;'><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: 50%;border-style: dashed;border-width: 0px 0px 2px;border-radius: 0px;border-color: rgb(182, 182, 182);box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='border-top: 1px dashed rgba(0, 0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 0;'><section style='line-height: 0;width: 0px;'><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style='vertical-align:top;'></svg></section></section></section></section><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: 10%;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 80%;box-sizing: border-box;'><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" x="0px" y="0px" viewBox="0 0 91.8 70.9" style='vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;' width="100%"><g style='box-sizing: border-box;'><path d="M91.8,22.4C91.8,10,81.8,0,69.4,0C57,0,47,10,47,22.4c0,12.4,10,22.4,22.4,22.4c2.7,0,5.2-0.5,7.6-1.3L51.2,69.3c-0.4,0.4-0.4,1,0,1.3c0.2,0.2,0.4,0.3,0.7,0.3s0.5-0.1,0.7-0.3l30.3-30.3C88.3,36.3,91.8,29.8,91.8,22.4z" fill="#FFC1C1" style='box-sizing: border-box;'></path><path d="M22.4,0C10,0,0,10,0,22.4c0,12.4,10,22.4,22.4,22.4c2.7,0,5.2-0.5,7.6-1.3L4.3,69.3c-0.4,0.4-0.4,1,0,1.3C4.5,70.9,4.7,71,5,71s0.5-0.1,0.7-0.3l30.3-30.3c5.4-4.1,9-10.6,9-17.9C44.9,10,34.8,0,22.4,0z" fill="#FFC1C1" style='box-sizing: border-box;'></path></g></svg></section></section></section></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section></section><section style='margin: 10px 8px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;height: 2em;padding-top: 0.3em;border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(255, 181, 197);box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; font-size: 23px; height: 1em; width: 1.4em; line-height: 1.2em; margin-top: -0.3em; color: rgb(255, 181, 197); box-sizing: border-box;'><p style='box-sizing: border-box;'><strong style='box-sizing: border-box;'>02</strong></p></section><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;border-top: 1px solid rgb(255, 181, 197);line-height: 1.6em;color: rgb(255, 181, 197);box-sizing: border-box;'><p style='box-sizing: border-box;'><strong style='box-sizing: border-box;'> PART</strong></p></section></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>仗着这些理直气壮的观念，父母放任情绪宣泄、驾驭孩子弱小、忽略孩子感受，甚至演发出许多极端案例，付出沉痛代价。</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>幼儿心理调解专栏节目中的个案：</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>一位年仅三岁半的幼童因一次偶尔尿床，就被父亲拉去杂物房狠狠胖揍一顿，可父亲明明知道，这么小的孩子对大小便的自控能力尚未成熟，难免还会偶发遗尿，这并非孩子故意为之。</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section></section><section style='text-align: center;margin: 10px 8px;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;box-sizing: border-box;'></span></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>而父亲责打孩子的缘由竟是：晨起时，被领导来电怪责昨晚应酬时没签成的合约，以及那宿醉未醒的疲惫感，这团成的大股戾气，因一片湿哒哒的尿迹而找到了出口，全砸向了孩子……</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>父亲扭曲的嘴脸和冰冷的巴掌，对孩子幼小心灵造成极大创伤，紧张、恐惧的高压心理导致孩子习惯性遗尿，无论走路、无论游戏、无论睡觉，尿液随时顺着裤管漟出。由于生理年龄直线退化，还那么幼小的孩子被陪送进了心理诊疗室……</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>孩子躺枪，稚子何辜？！</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>让海豚尤为不解的是：普遍父母，在尽心保护孩子免受外界霸凌的同时，却仗着自己是孩子的至亲，随心所欲「霸凌」懵懂的孩子，让孩子为自己的情绪化埋单，只是情节有轻重之分而已。</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section></section><section style='text-align: center;margin: 10px 8px;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;box-sizing: border-box;'></span></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section></section><section style='margin: 10px 8px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;height: 2em;padding-top: 0.3em;border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(255, 181, 197);box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; font-size: 23px; height: 1em; width: 1.4em; line-height: 1.2em; margin-top: -0.3em; color: rgb(255, 181, 197); box-sizing: border-box;'><p style='box-sizing: border-box;'><strong style='box-sizing: border-box;'>03</strong></p></section><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;border-top: 1px solid rgb(255, 181, 197);line-height: 1.6em;color: rgb(255, 181, 197);box-sizing: border-box;'><p style='box-sizing: border-box;'><strong style='box-sizing: border-box;'> PART</strong></p></section></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>这种罪魁祸首的情绪化通俗而言就是喜怒无常，心情愉悦时对孩子和颜悦色，遇到不顺心就肆意将坏情绪发泄到孩子身上。</section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>殊不知孩子情感触须较成人更为敏感，哪怕是父母声音、语调上的微妙变化，孩子都能敏锐感知，情绪化的父母会给孩子身心发育造成以下不可逆的损伤：</section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='margin: 10px 8px;line-height: 1;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;box-sizing: border-box;'><span style='width: 0px;display: inline-block;opacity: 0.6;border-left: 0.6em solid rgb(255, 193, 193);border-top: 0.5em solid transparent !important;border-bottom: 0.5em solid transparent !important;box-sizing: border-box;'> </span><span style='width: 0px;display: inline-block;border-left: 0.6em solid rgb(255, 193, 193);border-top: 0.5em solid transparent !important;border-bottom: 0.5em solid transparent !important;box-sizing: border-box;'> </span> </section><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;line-height: 1.2;padding-left: 3px;font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 1.8px;color: rgb(238, 162, 173);box-sizing: border-box;'><p style='box-sizing: border-box;'><strong style='box-sizing: border-box;'>损伤心理健康</strong></p></section></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>父母是孩子最亲近的人，也是孩子心理上最依赖的人，父母过度的情绪化会对孩子的心理造成超乎想象的损伤。<br style='box-sizing: border-box;'></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>在孩子心智发育尚未成熟阶段，面对身型巨大悬殊，气势高阶的父母给予的高压，孩子心理的自愈能力几乎为零，从而造成孩子患得患失，极度缺乏安全感。</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section></section><section style='text-align: center;margin: 10px 8px;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;box-sizing: border-box;'></span></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section></section><section style='margin: 10px 8px;line-height: 1;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;box-sizing: border-box;'><span style='width: 0px;display: inline-block;opacity: 0.6;border-left: 0.6em solid rgb(255, 193, 193);border-top: 0.5em solid transparent !important;border-bottom: 0.5em solid transparent !important;box-sizing: border-box;'> </span><span style='width: 0px;display: inline-block;border-left: 0.6em solid rgb(255, 193, 193);border-top: 0.5em solid transparent !important;border-bottom: 0.5em solid transparent !important;box-sizing: border-box;'> </span> </section><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;line-height: 1.2;padding-left: 3px;font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 1.8px;color: rgb(238, 162, 173);box-sizing: border-box;'><p style='box-sizing: border-box;'><strong style='box-sizing: border-box;'> 扭曲性格塑造</strong></p></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><span style='box-sizing: border-box;'>教育专家李玫瑾调查发现：经常被父母责骂的孩子出现性格缺陷的机率很高，56.5%的孩子暴躁，25.7%的孩子自卑、抑郁，22.1%的孩子冷酷。</span><br style='box-sizing: border-box;'></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>在喜怒无常父母身边长大的孩子因长期精神压抑，会造成孩子胆小自卑、阴郁暴躁、情感冷漠的性格，还会“继承”父母的情绪化，变得同样喜怒无常，给身边的人造成困扰。</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section></section><section style='text-align: center;margin: 10px 8px;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;box-sizing: border-box;'></span></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='margin: 10px 8px;line-height: 1;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;box-sizing: border-box;'><span style='width: 0px;display: inline-block;opacity: 0.6;border-left: 0.6em solid rgb(255, 193, 193);border-top: 0.5em solid transparent !important;border-bottom: 0.5em solid transparent !important;box-sizing: border-box;'> </span><span style='width: 0px;display: inline-block;border-left: 0.6em solid rgb(255, 193, 193);border-top: 0.5em solid transparent !important;border-bottom: 0.5em solid transparent !important;box-sizing: border-box;'> </span> </section><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;line-height: 1.2;padding-left: 3px;font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 1.8px;color: rgb(238, 162, 173);box-sizing: border-box;'><p style='box-sizing: border-box;'><strong style='box-sizing: border-box;'> 阻碍身体发育</strong></p></section></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>情绪化的父母带给孩子不仅仅是精神上的伤害，对孩子身体健康也有着不良影响。由于情绪低落、郁郁寡欢，所谓忧能成疾，身体抵抗力会下降容易生病，发育状况也会比同龄人落后。</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section></section><section style='text-align: center;margin: 10px 8px;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;box-sizing: border-box;'></span></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section></section><section style='margin: 10px 8px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;height: 2em;padding-top: 0.3em;border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(255, 174, 185);box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; font-size: 23px; height: 1em; width: 1.4em; line-height: 1.2em; margin-top: -0.3em; color: rgb(255, 174, 185); box-sizing: border-box;'><p style='box-sizing: border-box;'><strong style='box-sizing: border-box;'>04</strong></p></section><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;border-top: 1px solid rgb(255, 174, 185);line-height: 1.6em;color: rgb(255, 174, 185);box-sizing: border-box;'><p style='box-sizing: border-box;'><strong style='box-sizing: border-box;'> PART</strong></p></section></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>《爸爸去哪儿》节目中，陈小春带儿子Jasper做活动时因情绪焦躁，看到Jasper走得太慢，一把就将他拽得趔趄，并不耐烦地摆手大吼：“赶紧！快点！！”</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>Jasper镇定地用电喇叭对陈小春说：“你能不生气了吗？”</section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>趾高气扬的陈小春发现自己做得不对，他低声向儿子道歉：“对不起，我很抱歉，你能原谅我吗？”看到儿子轻轻地点头了，他才如释重负地笑了。</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section></section><section style='text-align: center;margin: 10px 8px;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;box-sizing: border-box;'></span></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>面对父母突如其来的坏情绪，不是所有的孩子都能像Jasper一样勇敢发声，提醒父母情绪刹车。</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>更多时候，需要父母不断修炼情绪自控的LEVER，做到及时反思，为糟糕的情绪刹车减速。</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section></section><section style='margin: 10px 8px;line-height: 1;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;box-sizing: border-box;'><span style='width: 0px;display: inline-block;opacity: 0.6;border-left: 0.6em solid rgb(255, 193, 193);border-top: 0.5em solid transparent !important;border-bottom: 0.5em solid transparent !important;box-sizing: border-box;'> </span><span style='width: 0px;display: inline-block;border-left: 0.6em solid rgb(255, 193, 193);border-top: 0.5em solid transparent !important;border-bottom: 0.5em solid transparent !important;box-sizing: border-box;'> </span> </section><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;line-height: 1.2;padding-left: 3px;font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 1.8px;color: rgb(238, 162, 173);box-sizing: border-box;'><p style='box-sizing: border-box;'><strong style='box-sizing: border-box;'> 控制情绪的关键是改变认知</strong></p></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><span style='box-sizing: border-box;'>说谎就是品行不好，磨蹭就是坏习惯…..</span></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>而很多儿童心理文献都指出：说谎是孩子自我保护的天性、磨蹭是孩子心智发育过程中的特性……</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>刺激父母情绪的，往往不是孩子的行为有错，而是我们对孩子行为认知的误解。</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section></section><section style='text-align: center;margin: 10px 8px;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;box-sizing: border-box;'></span></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><span style='color: rgb(62, 62, 62);box-sizing: border-box;'><strong style='box-sizing: border-box;'>多些知识储备去改变自身的认知水平，换个角度去读懂孩子区别于成人的那些行为，别再让你的情绪中招！</strong></span><br style='box-sizing: border-box;'></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section></section><section style='margin: 10px 8px;line-height: 1;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;box-sizing: border-box;'><span style='width: 0px;display: inline-block;opacity: 0.6;border-left: 0.6em solid rgb(255, 193, 193);border-top: 0.5em solid transparent !important;border-bottom: 0.5em solid transparent !important;box-sizing: border-box;'> </span><span style='width: 0px;display: inline-block;border-left: 0.6em solid rgb(255, 193, 193);border-top: 0.5em solid transparent !important;border-bottom: 0.5em solid transparent !important;box-sizing: border-box;'> </span> </section><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;line-height: 1.2;padding-left: 3px;font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 1.8px;color: rgb(238, 162, 173);box-sizing: border-box;'><p style='box-sizing: border-box;'><strong style='box-sizing: border-box;'>让你的情绪离孩子远一点</strong></p></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><span style='box-sizing: border-box;'>父母要把自己生活或工作中带来的情绪锁好在自己的世界里，与孩子保持安全距离。</span><br style='box-sizing: border-box;'></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>因为受坏情绪影响的我们会失掉正常准则，孩子的任何举动都可能导火，带情绪的你不是在"教育"孩子，而是在发泄！你没理由让孩子对你的情绪负责，也别将自己的问题强加给孩子。</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section></section><section style='text-align: center;margin: 10px 8px;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;box-sizing: border-box;'></span></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><span style='color: rgb(62, 62, 62);box-sizing: border-box;'><strong style='box-sizing: border-box;'>所以，此时你对孩子最好的保护就是——离孩子一丈远！</strong></span></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section></section><section style='margin: 10px 8px;line-height: 1;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;box-sizing: border-box;'><span style='width: 0px;display: inline-block;opacity: 0.6;border-left: 0.6em solid rgb(255, 193, 193);border-top: 0.5em solid transparent !important;border-bottom: 0.5em solid transparent !important;box-sizing: border-box;'> </span><span style='width: 0px;display: inline-block;border-left: 0.6em solid rgb(255, 193, 193);border-top: 0.5em solid transparent !important;border-bottom: 0.5em solid transparent !important;box-sizing: border-box;'> </span> </section><section style='display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;line-height: 1.2;padding-left: 3px;font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 1.8px;color: rgb(238, 162, 173);box-sizing: border-box;'><p style='box-sizing: border-box;'><strong style='box-sizing: border-box;'> 记住自己也曾是个孩子</strong></p></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><span style='box-sizing: border-box;'>苏霍姆林斯基：要时刻记住自己也曾是个孩子。</span><br style='box-sizing: border-box;'></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>父母当年也都曾是个孩子，而所有的孩子都渴望得到父母的尊重、理解、认可、关爱与温暖……</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section></section><section style='text-align: center;margin: 10px 8px;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;box-sizing: border-box;'></span></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><span style='color: rgb(62, 62, 62);box-sizing: border-box;'><strong style='box-sizing: border-box;'>默念三遍：他是我的孩子、他还是个孩子、我也曾是个孩子......</strong></span></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='text-align: center;margin: 10px 8px;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 10%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;'></span></section></section></section><section style='font-size: 13px;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;' powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>别让失控的情绪成为挥向孩子心灵的暴力！<br style='box-sizing: border-box;'></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'>海豚很崇敬TVB经典港剧溏心风暴系列之《家好月圆》里的灵魂人物荷妈，具备高阶情商的荷妈在面对人情变故、家道裂变时，均能及时将情绪拾掇好，保有严格家教的同时，也能护孩子身心周全。</section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><strong style='box-sizing: border-box;'><span style='color: rgb(238, 162, 173);box-sizing: border-box;'>平和稳定的情绪，亦是父母能够予以子女的最好守护。</span></strong></section><section style='box-sizing: border-box; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;'><br></section></section><section style='text-align: center;margin: 10px 8px;box-sizing: border-box;'><section style='max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;box-sizing: border-box;'></span></section></section></section></div>
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